Temperatures are rising, hem lines are drawing closer to each other (lower on the top, higher on the bottom), and material-density is decreasing.
If only I were talking about the world, of whom we'd all expect it. I'm not.
Lately there has been some encouragement for me to reprint Sister...show mercy! I won't do that; I will do this.
First, an excerpt:
What are you clothes saying about you, sister? What are they supposed to say to your brothers? "Hey, look at this?" Well, they actually are trying to look at the Lord; it's not good for them to be looking at that. No, it's not your fault that they have a problem. We established that. And it's really great that God has made you beautiful. I hope your husband (present or future) shows you how grateful he is for that about you.If you haven't previously, please read the whole thing.
But you can help the brothers who aren't your husband, or you can not-help them. Which are you doing? If you're not married, and a man looks at you, is he thinking, "What a great character"? Or are you giving him reason to think about something else?
I know many of the responses. "You don't know what it's like to buy women's clothes, you ignorant man!" Mostly true. My first just-for-fun purchase for my wife was, well, it was appalling. What a good sport my wife was. I took it back to the store immediately, and made a much better subsequent choice.
But this: "You can't find anything modest! It's all too revealing! It's impossible to get something that looks nice, yet isn't too tight, or too short, or too-something / not-something-enough!"
Sorry, but baloney.
I put "modest women's clothing Christian" in Google, and 453,000 pages come up. Yes, some are funny and quaint at best. But are they all Amishwear? "Can't find?"
More fundamentally: I do not accept that anyone has to wear clothes that are too tight or too sheer or too short -- unless you are the largest and tallest woman living in the hottest part of the planet. Because I see larger, taller women walking around in hot weather, and they're all wearing clothes, every last one. They got those clothes somewhere, I reason. You could too.
"But -- but they won't look good on me! The shoulders will be wrong!"
I'm not sure that's necessarily true, but let's accept it and pose a counter-question. You tell me. Which is worse: your shoulders hanging a half-inch too low? Or a blouse/shirt that simply (shifting into turbo-delicate) provides need-to-know information to those with a need-to-not-know?
The post generated 96 comments, which is lively. But many of them went a different way than I was going.
Given that I took an illustration from church service, many naturally thought I was writing about how Christian women dress in church. I wasn't. I was writing about how Christian women dress publicly, period. Church provides a bright and shining illustration, but it isn't as if (to speak bluntly) there's some virtue in dressing like a saint in one building, and like a slut in another.
Second, it's my pleasure to link to a few other good articles:
- Our friend Kim the Kanadienne first vented (very appropriately) on the subject, then added some more thoughts, plus a checklist.
- Carla Rolfe posts some helpful and specific thoughts, including a "Cleaning Out Your Closet" checklist. I'd add the thought that women just don't and can't look at it as men do; if you've got a Christian, male, teen-or-later relative in your life, ask him. He could add to Carla's list — if he's not too embarrassed.